I had a request for advice yesterday, but I did not feel that I had the skills to deal with such a complex and potentially troublesome problem without consulting people much more experienced than myself. After making such consultations I can finally suggest advice.
Polly asked: "I can't decide whether to paint me kitchen pink or white - what do you think?"
Now, Polly, there are many factors that need to be taken into consideration when making such a potentially life altering decision. I would look deep into your soul and after considering how your relationship with your parents has sculpted your life today, I would paint your kitchen white. Hope that helps, Polly.